{"id":1580,"date":"2026-01-28T17:33:06","date_gmt":"2026-01-28T17:33:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/danisace.com\/?p=1580"},"modified":"2026-03-21T12:08:25","modified_gmt":"2026-03-21T12:08:25","slug":"i-am-not-good-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/danisace.com\/?p=1580","title":{"rendered":"“I am not good enough”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

but you are<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would often tell myself that I am not good enough. I know you maybe might have told yourself this too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018You are alone, nobody loves you\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Why when you aren\u2019t good enough, will you keep doing what you are doing\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Nobody likes you\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Why when the world tries to squash you, why have you not been squashed\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018you have failed\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are the subconscious questions that would often float around my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Belittling me like a recurring alarm clock. Do you know that feeling?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People often feel not good enough due to a combination of past experiences, such as childhood rejection or criticism, and societal pressures that promote unrealistic standards and constant comparison to others. These feelings can stem from low self-esteem, perfectionism, and the belief that one’s worth is tied to achievements or external validation \u2013 AI summary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gratefully overtime I have developed my mental health; I like my time offline and I like my own company. I can spend too much time in my own space; I often do question myself on how. Several years ago, I sent myself into isolation subconsciously when I moved 100 miles away, without knowing that I was healing my physiology whilst understanding the psychological side to my mental health. We all have mental health; it\u2019s just different –> individuality article<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what I perceived \/ experienced from my external life often spilled into my personal life, sometimes without me knowing. Offering my time and energy into the cause of suicide prevention. I did this so energetically in 2025 that it absolutely exhausted me to the point I felt \u2018not good enough\u2019 again. It is hard to balance a volunteering life as well as my own things, my own things falter. As you know in many workplaces there is not much gratitude from delivering work, but the gratitude is eventually the pay cheque. If you remove the pay cheque, then you are left with relying on the gratitude. The volunteering always outweighs the gratitude, although we are not here for this discussion (whine) on that, but it is ultimately what has brought me here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The almost relapse to not feeling good enough and then having to re-trace my steps of worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It started yesterday, when I was on Tik Tok and this guy shouted at me, he told me that I was never the villain. It was something that I never knew I needed to hear. After Bryan\u2019s death, my boyfriend at the time was with someone else not long after. I hit c-PTSD within weeks because of the trauma on trauma –> it comes in threes<\/a>. My behaviours went from being settled to being erratic and impulsive within what felt like moments, instead of being supported after the death, I was painted like a villain, and I had to just move on\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To try and distract my mind from that emotional moment, I ended up on a bit of a doom scroll through my archived Instagram posts to unarchive a couple, then I ended up looking at some of the pictures from 2016 when I used to hate myself and feel unlovable, but I was beautiful and younger!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, I ended up emotionally worse that what I started, because where the hell has ten years gone. Why has it flown so fast and what have I gained out of it. Why did I hate myself so much back then when I was so beautiful. I felt heart-broken for my past self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There were two ways I could have gone with this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n