1 SIDE
Can you guess what the topic is today?
One side to a story… I have already delved in this area before discussing different perceptions, I think it just personally affected my life again, so I wanted to continue to write about it but maybe this time in a different context.
Have you ever listened to someone going on about someone else’s life or read a public Facebook statement that slates somebody else, either an adult or a child, if you have what are your instant thoughts?
Are they….
Oh wow, that must be true – I will add a comment or support this?
Do you go, oh wait there has got to be more to this story?
Do you judge or assume knowledge by the information you have just seen?
Or did this just confirm what you wanted to believe?
Or do you not believe it at all?
There are ALWAYS several versions of a story, and there are all different versions of people that you can meet, one persons version of you is not a true reflection on who you are. If you do not understand this then you are very narrow or tunnel minded. You do know though that at any given moment you can open your mind and understand different perceptions. It is why I write so often to share knowledge and understandings for the better versions of other people. I don’t have to write for anyone, but I always will 🙂 …
Most people believe what they see as factual and within seconds this is apparent. As an example, someone who elevates a false statement about someone, or a false Facebook status based on limited information and then people support or comment with assumptions and presumptions as if they are believing what they are hearing or seeing instantly.
Heyyy, yeah so that happened to me and my family, thousands of people saw this before me and there was nothing i can do but read. So, I had to again write about it. We had an extremely angry, partially mis-informed bitter status put up about us without full knowledge on what had really happened. What was involving five other people became a target board for just one.
The thing that triggered me the most was that it was adults attacking a child because of some hurtful words. As a child our minds are very immature, we say things and do things that we do not understand especially if we become aggravated by another person. Children call each other’s appearance, they can judge each other’s parents and children can also twist things to make themselves look of a certain manner in some situations.
Children are children and unfortunately, they can be mean to each other, they can also say things they do not fully understand. We as adults were also once children so I can imagine you understand that maybe once or twice you have said something to someone that caused them pain too. It happens. Some people who look down with judgement as adults have also been a lot worse over the years too..
Children can say hurtful words and as they grow older, they understand the direct effect of these words and do generally release these from their vocabulary. What goes wrong is when these children become adults and they don’t mature from their childhood mishaps.
Due to the rise of children and adults on social media these can easily become battle grounds, groups get created and people get added. Some children create the groups, some children watch in the groups, most get bullied in the groups and some children bring themselves into groups cause chaos then screen record the final moments.
When this happens, status’s can then get published by adults and it carries on or goes further, adults can start threatening children and homes, all because one child twisted a situation and everybody was fuelled to believe a one-sided story without really understanding whats happened.
It is not just children who progress with one-sided stories it is adults too and it is our duty to understand this and teach others, including our children. There are always two sides if not three sides to a story.
When things happen with children, adults need to understand that children fabricate situations. As an example, 5 children are in a group, 3 vs 2, the 3-start attacking the 2, the 2 retaliate and get screen recorded. This then gets passed to an adult who instead of making direct contact to understand what has actually happened, puts a status up naming only one child and one adult as if no one else was there. Not only does this adult attack they slander a business, they also slander an adult who has no knowledge and they slander a child to the point other adults are threatening the child’s life, all because of some hurtful words that were made to appear one-sided. But the words that were received before strategically disappeared and still adults believed the one-sided story.
My name was publicly tarred along with SAP;UK because my son said some horrible words in retaliation to defending me and people he loved, I saw people supporting on this status that I never thought I would, but I’m glad I did cause yeah big respect lost for you, going forward don’t talk or associate with me ever again unless it is with an apology. The thing is I was never contacted even though my number is available to the other party… This screamed enough itself, I tried to make contact and I was ignored for six hours as they lapped up the attention form the status, i also offered to go round to face the situation and was ignored… There was no adult communication until after hours finally I found and gained contact with someone who wasn’t even direct family?!
The slander that was created was like just wow, but no contact was made with me. Our suicide prevention group got brought into it and terrorised, they found out before me, they had nothing to do with it as volunteers they had to remove him, this was slandered too. ‘She blocked me from the page (then laughing faces)’. Again, misinformation as I was without knowledge, taking some time away to process grief and asleep…
Apparently one child out of the five was the devil and everybody else was extremely innocent…
Now this is apparently clear it is an emotionally led impulsive destructive move, but to have other people supporting and commenting was extremely eye opening at how much we can follow as sheep without any real understanding… It is scary really…
There are always different sides to a story, I always believe if someone has heightened the spotlight on someone else the crowd should be looking more towards the person navigating the spotlight. Characters do show eventually, those who are willing to understand, relieve and or communicate healthily including having and owning accountability are much more trustworthy characters than those who slander, presume, assume , belittle and or lack further understanding.
We all have our own life paths, it is up to you how you choose to interpret information that is given to you, but if you judge characters based on one person’s information your mind is not open and you are not free.
I am past caring for anyone who looks down on anyone based on presumptions or assumptions, you don’t know anybody. You just know what you want to know and if that’s bad vibes for others based on limited knowledge then that speaks more of your character than anybody else’s 😊
Remember, there are always several sides to a story than the one you have been presented and that is in most walks of life… Don’t be a fool to the drool and keep it real.
Peace out, all my love D x