Sorry, what? Who?
Jeez, I love triggers because a trigger always teaches me something. But the key is to never take anything personally, it is not you. You need to keep being this loving version of yourself, do not let the world squash you, and never believe any judgements that other people cast without personal experiences.
Have you ever been left with the feeling of backhanded judgement? In this day and age socialising is strongly done by social media or by sending a message into the clouds where another person will then retrieve it.
If you see everything as an experience, you will always win. My recent triggers were old friends, well okay maybe not friends obviously. An acquaintance, you know someone you used to know, someone you used to get on really well with or a chat in the pub type of person, mutual friends’ type of person. A person who was always nice to your face, so you were under the impression that at some point you were friends.
Anyway, it all started with, *drum rolls* … I saw someone on insta who I used to know and I noticed they got married, so I messaged a kind message saying congratulations and sent well wishes, I got ignored. Then I went to follow someone on insta and they rejected my follow, not spoke to them for years and it would have been a five-minute chat checking in. Then I saw someone else I used to know get engaged and I dropped them a message to be dismissed again. Furthermore I attempted one last time and saw an old school friend, dropped them a message, left on seen.
It it me?! Haha.
It makes me wonder if I ever saw these people in real life, would I then have to blank them as if I didn’t actually know them. Would they of blanked me again anyway? Oh, what an awkward scenario that would entail to be…
And then it rolled me back to when it previously happened with family and other people, I may have known.
I remember how people like this made me feel previously, and it just isn’t worth my energy. I am glad I sent my well wishes as that is who I am. I probably will still do it also as I don’t actually care. I believe that I speak only kindness from my heart 😊.
But it just made me think, is it worth reaching out to people you used to know? Or is that a chapter that gets closed. Is every scenario to be like this?
Over the years, I have had many of my well-wishes ignored from past friends / people. I have even given gifts to not even have a thank you.
I have had people tell other people not to talk to me after spreading their own venom.
I have had people read and never reply. I have had people judge me because of other people’s words and actions, and I just don’t get it.
I always believe and everyone should, that there are always two sides to every scenario. One personal judgement on a situation is not and never going to be a reality, and you cannot heavily rely on one’s individual input as factual; it’s a misconception that is generally personally driven.
It has bothered me previously but now I just talk about everything openly because I am a healed version of myself now and I know it helps others. It all comes down to individual differences, personally if someone messaged me well-wishes regardless of anything, I would always reply with a thank you even if it takes me time to get around to it, I will always say thank you, in my eyes its rude not too.
If someone tried to tell me not to talk to someone or tried to intervene within a positive relationship of mine, this I would see as a level of control / manipulation. I understand I am free to make my own decisions and judgements on others. I also believe that if someone is consciously sharing negativity that the spotlight should be on them to understand why they speak so poorly.
Personally, if I haven’t got the capacity to reply to someone, I will never open their message until I do, or if I do I say I will respond later. To many people read and don’t respond, it causes disconnection and friction towards individuals, especially if that person is an over thinker or is rejection sensitive… You must be conscious of others; this I believe is where the human connection is being lost.
Then I started thinking about it psychologically for the reasons as to why someone may consciously behave in this manner. Why someone reads messages and doesn’t respond. Why someone won’t follow you back. Why someone pretends they don’t know you if you walk past them. Why someone won’t like your stuff but will watch your stories. Why someone tells someone else not to talk to you.
Of course there are neurodivergences to consider, but we cant blame everything on them, and I do also get that life happens and over takes us, but…
There is a possibility, they hold no empathy or consideration to how others may feel.
There is a possibility they don’t actually like you, how rude?!
There is a possibility they never saw it or accidently dismissed you.
There is a chance they don’t feel comfortable sharing anything with you.
There is a chance they have personal reasons why they may dismiss you.
There is a heightened possibility, that they believe they are better than you.
The last one is wild, I know…
There are many reasons why an individual might leave you feeling dismissed, but for a moment we want to talk about people who think they are better than someone else, because this was the vibe I picked up on one of my last altercations.
So anyway, I always like learning and understanding individuals’ minds and how they perceive themselves and others around them. I like how other people see people and inundate objects differently. I like how people have their own different passions in causes and their own depths in channelled knowledge. But I don’t like people who think they are better than me, or better than anyone else, because no, no you are not.
The renowned saying, ‘We enter this world with nothing, and we leave with nothing too’, Could you fully understand this meaning? It means that nothing is truly ours, it is all borrowed. We borrow time, we borrow stuff, we borrow love. Then when our time naturally comes, we gift everything we own outwards, taking nothing with us to the afterlife.
This is why we are all equals, why we each deserve self-respect towards ourselves then extending this respect to others around us. Nobody is better than anyone, we need to make this clear, nobody is better than anyone.
Money does not give you value; it gives you inundate value – more things to deal with. Our values come from within, what we give to this world and how we treat other people.
Cheating someone who is kind to you, says more about you than what it ever would about the person being cheated.
Giving gifts of your time, gifting gifts in general, check in messages out of nowhere, that shows who you are.
Left on read, rejecting follows, speaking poorly of others, not saying thankyou, that shows who they are.
Your value comes from who you are and how you treat the people around you. Its the words that come out of your mouth, the actions that you put you forward.
This is what truly matters.
And if anyone ever makes you feel less for being who you are, then you carry on walking in the same way you always have been. And that’s forward <3
Thankyou for reading 😊