Judgy Julie
Why are you not dressed professionally? Judgy Julie will think.
I studied before you. Judgy Julie will think.
I know more than you. Judgy Julie will think.
I have been here longer. Judgy Julie will think.
More sinister thoughts / beliefs can be –
I am better than you. Judgy Julie will think.
I have more money than you. Judgy Julie will think.
Apologies in advance to any Julie who may take offence. It is simply alliteration. And no offence is intended, nor is it directed at any sole person. The Julie’s I know have been amazing people and helped me in certain parts of my life. Specifically one, I grew up with her, she then welcomed me like family, gave me a job when I was 19 and was like a second mum.
But what our J doesn’t know is by her mind thinking this way, it lowers her affluence long-term. When you progress through the day with judgement, your body doesn’t just judge the individual, based on limited information. It has physical, psychological and social effects too, but not on the individual judging, on you…
The physical effects it has are The Stress Response. This response when triggered frequently can have a detrimental effect on our physical health. Exposure to constant judgement can lead to an individual’s immune system being weakened, it can elevate blood pressure, it can be a cause of heart disease and lead to other health problems. Additionally, being within a constant state of alertness for judgement can lead to fatigue and sleep disturbances.
The Psychological Effects it has are reliance on Cognitive Bias. When we judge an individual we rely on cognitive biases, which are based on limited information. These are systematic errors in thinking and can affect our decision-making and overall judgements. These biases can lead to a distorted perception of reality contributing to anxiety and depression.
Moreover, frequent judgement can lead to a negative feedback loop. When we judge others negatively, it often leads to feelings of guilt and self-criticism. This cycle can perpetuate feelings of low self-esteem and depression.
The Social Effects it has are isolation and miscommunication. Isolation and Miscommunication Judgment not only affects our physical and mental health but also our social relationships. It can lead to misunderstanding and miscommunication, reducing empathy, and fostering isolation. It can also create a hostile environment, hampering effective communication and cooperation.
https://reset-it.ca/ – is a good website for understanding. Alternatively, see my other blogs on judgement by searching judgement in the search bar (I mention it LOADS, cause why is everybody still doing it haa), or link here à https://danisace.com/?p=1400.
Personal thoughts on judgement
I get judged ALL THE TIME :’). I was trying to keep this within a professional setting, but then I realised that that is not me and I have zero intentions on changing who I am to fit anyone’s narrative. I am the least professional founder; I have ever met. Most are extremely judgemental when realising what I have built, often getting side-eyed and looked up and down. But I love it, it makes me laugh, the brain is on the inside anyway, remember?
I have never ever looked at anybody and judged them on a negative scale, I do not understand why it consumes some people, I do not understand how people can look at somebody and judge, we are all here for different reasons. I do not have time to talk about other people, I do not think about other people in any way. Many people I meet past / present always have a judgement. There has only ever been two people in my whole life who have never vocally judged someone to me, so I have to keep talking about it cause everybody else is talking about everybody else and it is draining. Stop now so I can also stop having to process it too. Pls, thnks x
Judgement in the workplace
Judgement in the workplace is an unjustified movement, because it is a professional setting and needs a focus of completing the goal. If you are going to work and then spending a lot of your time judging other people or other people’s work, then this simply indicates that you are not a team player and need to work independently. Please allow someone else to fill your role who can support others growth too, this will ensure that there is a kind workplace also and not one potentially dwelling within bitter grounds.
Judgement in the family or relationships
I am so sorry, but what is this?! I have personally experienced this so muchhh! – From friends’ side-eyeing me to family looking me up and downnn :’). When I was homeless my aunt right in front of me literally looked me up and down. I could just see in her face that she was judging me, it was such a horrible vibe that I never intend on experiencing again. But then I know she talks about everybody; it is clearly her personality. I do not see that side of the family anymore with no rush to do so.
To judge another person on their choices, I do not understand this. Everyone has their own personal choices and life goals; we each have our own personality and we each look differently. We all have our own skills, and we each have our own beds, finances, careers, relationships. We make our own choices. You make your own choices. It is up to you, what you do. Nobody else has any dictatorship on how you live your life, (unless you are vulnerable). So, to cast judgement based on little knowledge, well I can’t really say anything other than are you jealous or something?
Jealousy shows us what we need to strive for, it is not a bad emotion. If you are jealous of something it is because you want it, you are fully capable of doing something similar but always keep it different cause then its obvious its copying lol.
Judgement online
Judgement online is a tough one, because when reading it can actually make you feel worse off being self-critical or maybe feeling guilt because you expressed to much inner hate. It is not an easy path but practicing being positive for others will help with your own self-growth.
If you see someone with an altered style, think about how they chose each single piece to produce their image…
If you see someone releasing photo’s / video’s – think about how they must of saw that first to take the shot, or if they made a video think about the time, energy and beauty they must of felt when capturing that…
If you see someone sharing something thoughtful, think about the bravery, the courage and strength it took for them to produce and share that…
If you see someone not giving up, think about the persistence the dedication and love towards what they believe in …
Thankyou for reading
All my Love
Danielle